When you make a mistake for the first time, you should pardon yourself; the second time you make the same mistake, you should suffer the consequences for your stupidity folly; everyone makes mistakes, but only the wise learn from them.
Most people believe they have complete control of their free will regarding their actions and values. That is simply is a myth because our actions are influenced substantially but external factors. While some philosophers differ regarding the extent, we control free will, the vast majority believe external factors have a fundamental role. However, most do agree humans are in total control of their moral code, personal ethics and social values.
Improving your future requires study of the past; we learn traveling through life and especially from mistakes that provide lessons we should not repeat.
Your words can proclaim moral values, self-righteousness and virtue, but only actions and behavior determine your integrity.
Fiery passion and intimacy are never sustained without deep love; love that makes your skin tingle when you smell her hair.
Life is simply a long journey of problem-solving and conflict resolution.