Your words can proclaim moral values, self-righteousness and virtue, but only actions and behavior determine your integrity.
Most people believe they have complete control of their free will regarding their actions and values. That is simply is a myth because our actions are influenced substantially but external factors. While some philosophers differ regarding the extent, we control free will, the vast majority believe external factors have a fundamental role. However, most do agree humans are in total control of their moral code, personal ethics and social values.
Improving your future requires study of the past; we learn traveling through life and especially from mistakes that provide lessons we should not repeat.
When you make a mistake for the first time, you should pardon yourself; the second time you make the same mistake, you should suffer the consequences for your stupidity folly; everyone makes mistakes, but only the wise learn from them.
Fiery passion and intimacy are never sustained without deep love; love that makes your skin tingle when you smell her hair.
Life is simply a long journey of problem-solving and conflict resolution.