"Awdhesh Singh"の名言

We must know what ‘actually’ makes us happy rather than what ‘should’ make us happy. The only way to know the truth is to experiment with what is supposed to bring us happiness and then see the results on ourselves.

Extreme love suffocates. A man who loves everyone suffers immensely as he develops attachment towards everyone and hence his pains are also multiplied. A happy man is one who balances attachment and detachment well so that his happiness is maximised.

If you are filled with hatred, you can hardly enjoy genuine happiness. Hatred makes your personality extremely fragile and you lose your temper on the slightest pretext, which further creates enmity.

A wise person hates none and loves everyone. When you give love to someone without any expectations, your happiness account is credited. Each time you hate those who love you, or cheat your friends or become unfaithful to your beloved, a certain amount of happiness gets debited from your account.

The incremental value of wealth declines as we become richer. Yet people keep on accumulating it. They think that more is better. Hence, when they fail to get happiness even after becoming wealthy, instead of looking for the appropriate reason for their unhappiness, they blame lack of greater wealth for the lack of happiness and work even harder to make more money with the hope of buying happiness with money.

It is only by practice that you can understand the events of life and find the right rhythm. Once you get into the rhythm of life, you can flow with life and enjoy happiness effortlessly.

In the harmonious synthesis of the opposite ends of the river, flows the stream of happiness.

One of the best ways to achieve happiness in life is to restrict your options. The more options you have, the more pain you may suffer. You can reduce your options by developing faith and genuine love.

In order to bring lasting joy to our lives, we must harmonise the past, the present and the future. We must think about the past, be in the present but also visualise our future in a harmonious rhythm. When all three time dimensions are present in our life, we enjoy peace and happiness.

You can’t have boredom and happiness living under the same roof. If we are able to manage our boredom, we can easily manage our happiness.

When you are in harmony with others, life becomes a celebration because you can bring happiness to the lives of numerous people associated with you. The interdependence does not prick you as you love being with people and wish to make their lives better. When you give joy to others, you get back much more joy in your life

Happiness is a result of the exchange surplus you create with the world. The more you give to the world and the less you take from it, the more surplus you create and that adds to your happiness balance.

Your happiness depends on your ability to balance the opposites rather than sticking to only one of the truths while ignoring all others. When you avoid something for long, over a period of time, it creates a craving in you that can disturb the peace of your mind and make you suffer immensely.

In order to enjoy happiness in our lives, we have to create right amount of stress in our lives. Such stress is useful for building strength and leads to better performance.

When you earn wealth by doing things that are not conducive to the society, you pay from your happiness account. People, who are doing illegal or immoral things in their professions, are constantly depleting their happiness account. Thieves, dacoits, fraudsters and corrupt people can make huge amounts of illegal money through elicit activities. However, they have to pay spiritually by losing their happiness and suffering from inner guilt throughout their lives.

When we depend on the outside world for our happiness, there are billions of causes that can take away our joy. We need to find an anchor which can tie us to our happiness like a ship is tied to the shoreline. We need to board this big ship to achieve stability and protect ourselves from the uncertain waves of life.

There are numerous emotions such as love, hatred, fear, anxiety, guilt, grief, anger, surprise, happiness, boredom, lust, compassion and each has an important role to play in our lives. We need to feel and go through all the emotions in our lives. While we may not desire some of them as they can cause pain, their absence can’t complete our lives either.

Happiness requires love, being in a relationship, compassion, intimacy as well as freedom. Every relationship binds you with others, thereby reducing your freedom to some extent. There is no possibility of absolute freedom for man. However, it is possible to increase our freedom to maximise our happiness.

It is important to understand that lack of time is no less a source of unhappiness than lack of money. The more time 128 | 31 Ways to Happiness Manage Your Time | 129 you can save for yourself, the more time you will have to enjoy life and do what you love to do. A man, who is rich in time, is no less wealthy than a man who is rich in money.

Love should not be treated as panacea for all happiness and excessive love or love at the wrong place or for wrong people can become a source of tremendous pain and misery.